hellatubbie:

according to my calculations image

(via thewhitebatman)

seifukucat:

sir could you just calm down for a second

seifukucat:

sir could you just calm down for a second

(via thewhitebatman)

tealiteful:

i should of started my homework like 6 years ago oops

(via say-that-to-my-abs)

When I was seventeen and preparing to leave for university, my mother’s only brother saw fit to give me some advice.
“Just don’t be an idiot, kid,” he told me, “and don’t ever forget that boys and girls can never just be friends.”
I laughed and answered, “I’m not too worried. And I don’t really think all guys are like that.”

When I was eighteen and the third annual advent of the common cold was rolling through residence like a pestilent fog, a friend texted me asking if there was anything he could do to help.
I told him that if he could bring me up some vitamin water that would be great, if it wasn’t too much trouble.
That semester I learned that human skin cells replace themselves every three to five weeks. I hoped that in a month, maybe I’d stop feeling the echoes of his touch; maybe my new skin would feel cleaner.
It didn’t. But I stood by what I said. Not all guys are like that.

When I was nineteen and my roommate decided the only way to celebrate the end of midterms was to get wasted at a club, I humoured her.
Four drinks, countless leers and five hands up my skirt later, I informed her I was ready to leave.
“I get why you’re upset,” she told me on the walk home, “but you have to tolerate that sort of thing if you want to have any fun. And really, not all guys are like that.”

(Age nineteen also saw me propositioned for casual sex by no fewer than three different male friends, and while I still believe that guys and girls can indeed be just friends, I was beginning to see my uncle’s point.)

When I was twenty and a stranger that started chatting to me in my usual cafe asked if he could walk with me (since we were going the same way and all), I accepted.
Before we’d even made it three blocks he was pulling me into an alleyway and trying to put his hands up my shirt. “You were staring,” he laughed when I asked what the fuck he was doing (I wasn’t), “I’m just taking pity.”
But not all guys are like that.

I am twenty one and a few days ago a friend and I were walking down the street. A car drove by with the windows down, and a young man stuck his head out and whistled as they passed. I ignored it, carrying on with the conversation.
My friend did not. “Did you know those people?” He asked.
“Not at all,” I answered.
Later when we sat down to eat he got this thoughtful look on his face. When I asked what was wrong he said, “You know not all guys do that kind of thing, right? We’re not all like that.”
As if he were imparting some great profound truth I’d never realized before. My entire life has been turned around, because now I’ve been enlightened: not all guys are like that.

No. Not all guys are. But enough are. Enough that I am uncomfortable when a man sits next to me on the bus. Enough that I will cross to the other side of the street if I see a pack of guys coming my way. Enough that even fleeting eye contact with a male stranger makes my insides crawl with unease. Enough that I cannot feel safe alone in a room with some of my male friends, even ones I’ve known for years. Enough that when I go out past dark for chips or milk or toilet paper, I carry a knife, I wear a coat that obscures my figure, I mimic a man’s gait. Enough that three years later I keep the story of that day to myself, when the only thing that saved me from being raped was a right hook to the jaw and a threat to scream in a crowded dorm, because I know what the response will be.

I live my life with the everburning anxiety that someone is going to put their hands on me regardless of my feelings on the matter, and I’m not going to be able to stop them. I live with the knowledge that statistically one in three women have experienced a sexual assault, but even a number like that can’t be trusted when we are harassed into silence. I live with the learned instinct, the ingrained compulsion to keep my mouth shut to jeers and catcalls, to swallow my anger at lewd suggestions and crude gestures, to put up my walls against insults and threats. I live in an environment that necessitates armouring myself against it just to get through a day peacefully, and I now view that as normal. I have adapted to extreme circumstances and am told to treat it as baseline. I carry this fear close to my heart, rooted into my bones, and I do so to keep myself unharmed.

So you can tell me that not all guys are like that, and you’d even be right, but that isn’t the issue anymore. My problem is not that I’m unaware of the fact that some guys are perfectly civil, decent, kind—my problem is simply this:

In a world where this cynical overcaution is the only thing that ensures my safety, I’m no longer willing to take the risk.

— r.d. (via vonmoire)

I relate to this so much. I’ve been sexually assaulted and harassed almost continuously since I was 12. I don’t trust men. There are maybe 3-4 guys I would trust being alone with, and I don’t think that’s at all unreasonable.

(via fauxtumblebeast)

(via thewhitebatman)


"he said he didn’t love me any more because i had too many problems (depression, anxiety etc).."

"he said he didn’t love me any more because i had too many problems (depression, anxiety etc).."

(via thewhitebatman)

shortcuttothestars:

From when I went out to get groceries earlier <3

shortcuttothestars:

From when I went out to get groceries earlier <3

(via infamouscreature)

4nimalparty:

Forest path in redwood forests, california, USA (by sroy_sroy)

4nimalparty:

Forest path in redwood forests, california, USA (by sroy_sroy)

(via mortisia)

multicolors:

multicolors:

We live in a world where it’s more acceptable to dislike yourself and openly say “I am ugly” rather than actually appreciate yourself and openly say “I am attractive” because how dare you feel good in your skin and say it out loud, what an awful human being you are, you can’t walk around thinking you’re good, you piece of shit.

damn

(via q33r)

toughasbro:

pjohns65:

viciouswatson:

keatonpickles:

contrahan:

pizzabukkake:

sizvideos:

To the Boys Who May One Day Date My Daughter - Video

the patriarchy extends into fatherhood once again in a display of ownership. sorry, dads, you don’t own your daughters.

This is different than the standard “you’re not allowed to date my daughter because I said so”

This is him protecting someone who means the world to him. He didn’t say that his daughter couldn’t date, just that he wants the people that date her, to take care of her and love her, not hurt her. That’s not “ownership”, that’s loving someone and wanting them to be happy with the person they want to date.

Good dads give a shit about who treats their kid like crap, good dads don’t throw their daughters to the wolves and watch as they get devoured and broken.

fucking tumblr

can we just acknowledge that he even said, “to the girls that may one day date my daughter?” This father is going to be the most loving, accepting father in the history of fathers

Perfect

Tumblr has ruined peoples’ reading comprehension, and destroyed any chance of intelligence. Honestly, how incredibly daft do you have to be to miss the point of what he’s saying? How can you just scroll past the substance and come to the conclusion that it was about ownership? HOW STUPID DO YOU HAVE TO BE?

(via q33r)

beben-eleben:

Pets who love or hate their bath time

(via imgonnamakeachange)